No matter how friendly you are with your inlaws, some topics should be best stayed away from.
Establishing a warm, respectful relationship with your inlaws calls for some wisdom, understanding, and patience. While the majority of daughters-in-law get to a place very near in-laws where they can talk near enough about anything, it is best to remember there are things that have the potential to unintentionally offend or confuse.
You do not want to be dishonest, but there are certain issues that, if talked about too casually, can cause conflicts in the household. If you truly want to be on good terms with your in-laws and avoid drama, avoid these five controversial subjects.
1. Don’t Discuss Past Relationships
Talking about your or your spouse’s exes is a huge no-no. It unsettles your in-laws or makes them doubt your relationship. Even if they appear to be fine, inwardly it can make them feel insecure. Leave the past in the past, it has no place in this relationship.
2. Don’t Gossip About Your In-Laws
Never criticize other members of your family such as your in-laws’ sister or brother to their face. It could project you as a negative person who brings family conflict. Instead, redirect the conversation to neutral or positive subjects such as planning for festivals, favorite food, or shared interest.
3. Be Sensitive with Parenting Conflicts
If your in-laws provide you with advice on raising your kids that you disagree with, don’t shut them off. Perhaps they are coming from a place of experience and love. Disagreeing or judging their approach can pit you against each other. Set soft boundaries and use words wisely so no emotional showdowns occur.
4. Keep Your Partner’s Secrets Safe
If your spouse has shared their secrets with you, keep it between the two of you. Mentioning it to your in-laws, No matter how selfless the intentions may be, they still erode trust. Something that is supposed to be a secret should never be the topic of conversation at the dinner table.
5. Hold Your Tongue About Money
Talking about your finances or your home — salary, debt, loans can make the wrong impression. Your in-laws might criticize your spending habits or fret needlessly. If you do need financial advice, try having a general and polite conversation.
In-laws may seem like a second family, but there are limits even there. It is fairly essential to know what not to say as to know what to say. Place love, respect, and silence where they belong and your relationship will last for decades to come.